I feel like “fuck it, remodel that prison into a home” might be the vibe. Like, take the lock off the door let some fresh air in and get some throw pillows but don’t move out lol
So what happens when I'm gay in the most literal sense of being exclusively attracted to other men, but I can't vibe with the standard-issue queer aesthetics at all? I would rather die than say "you're serving cunt PERIOD", and I might die of embarrassment if someone said that to me. I am reserved, I do not want to stand out and draw attention to myself. I wear Orvis button-downs and dad sneakers. I don't know who boygenius is; I listen to 20-minute prog rock songs that you can't dance to. Being camp is just too much work, it sounds like a job. I've already got a job and it sucks.
By refusing to fit in with the group that is specifically trying to "fit out", you are no longer gay in the eyes of the X overlords (stop calling it Twitter, that's its deadname). Luckily this affects you in literally no way at all, live your life and be happy and if you want to find a gay community of actually normal people, consider rock climbing, that's what my brother did anyway. In general real world, local communities will not have nearly as many chronically online types that expect members of every group to satisfy a checklist to qualify as a member.
Call it what you want, but if you hate him as much as you say you do don't be giving him a cent of ad revenue by using that Nazi app. Too many people out here calling it Twitter as a ✨protest✨ but are too brain dead to stop using the damn thing.
I feel like no matter who you are in this society, being your most honest self is the most important thing to do. Normalize *queer in khakis*. We need all kinds in this world.
I can certainly understand how unappealing straightness might be if you're purely going off what you see on the internet, but the solution isn't to cosplay as the type of man that you think women like, it's to say "that part doesn't apply to me" and move on with your life! However I am autistic and also a woman, so maybe I'm over simplifying 😂 Also if a man isn't gentle to animals he's just a psychopath, c'mon now
Ultimately agreed with the conclusions here, the yassification of straight men is a weird cultural neurosis around a certain sort of person, usually "bi" women who have exclusively dated men but happen to watch Drag Race -- however, does the Democratic Party really "support trans rights" though? I mean, they seemed more content to exploit trans issues as a culture war front (while not pushing for much material change to help support trans women), and then left trans people to the wolves in a blink. When Kamala was AG for California she fought against gender reaffirming care for trans inmates, should we have expected better from her as President?
Nobody here is implementing social policy to "delimit" and "police" how gender and sexuality are presented. But performative bisexuals and yassified straight men are fucking annoying. Why "police" our freedom to talk about how fucking annoying they are?
this is all synonymous with DL culture, is anybody still doing that?? these “bi” women think they’re experts on male sexuality but a real expert would know what questions to ask
the “I’m attracted to like four men” thing is so cringe because women who say that are ALWAYS dating men. speaking as a straight bisexual representative we need to stop this faux lesbian shit. date men or don’t date men but don’t date men and be like teehee im so embarrassed!!
I totally get where you are coming from with this, and sometimes the straggots seem to have a weird homophobia they feel like they need to perform to justify themselves sometimes, but I do think there are some of them for whom it is genuine, I’ve met some who are like that and non-toxic, they’re just effeminate but are men attracted to women. They’re still straight guys but I think they can sometimes still experience a certain kind of victimization by other straight men for the way they are that is not so so disimilar from the way gay people or trans people are treated - it isn’t the same, but I think those people don’t necessarily need to like man up or achieve a particular standard of masculinity? Us existing and being ourselves maybe opens some room up for them to be themselves too and maybe loosens some of the rigid boundaries on this stuff that I think is good for everyone
String them up and let them swing. Hate these assholes. Also, this is a white cis-presenting het couple thing, which i think is the root of their need to be unique or subversive, because they're anything but and can't deal with their identities being blase. they need to be part of the cool crowd and the out-group despite being born, and bred, and still living in the in-group. Boring, privileged people (especially those with nothing going on) need to tie themselves to an identity that isn't as run-of-the-mill and safe as their own bc otherwise they'd have to live with the fact that they have every opportunity to do something interesting with their privilege but haven't and have no plans to. They can't stand the reality that their like sooooo many other people. They're the tweet that's like "white people find out they're ugly and now all of sudden they're non-binary and autistic," except she's found out the dolls don't like her and all of a sudden he's gay. LOVED THIS.
It’s ironic to talk about being performative with your gayness then immediately jump to being performative with your gayness. I imagine if you spoke like this in my city, the gays here would blank stare at you just like your straight man did. Here I’d say you’re more encouraged to speak like a normal human being and less like a “Best of Gay TikTok compilation.” Gay culture can vary a lot and not everyone within the LGBT community will keep up with your niche references and some straight people will. When you’re replacing the definition of culture with Rupaul and online meme references, it’s a very easy thing for trendy straight people to adopt. If it bothers you so much, go interact more with your local communities and find new culture there.
the difference is i’m not performing love. it’s fine to not be down with internet lingo as long as that’s ur truth 💖 but my truth is flamboyant faggotry realness
Men need to be what beautiful butch lesbians already are
they NEVER could
i like how the conclusion is just like, fuck it, masculinity is a prison, so enjoy being a prisoner
I feel like “fuck it, remodel that prison into a home” might be the vibe. Like, take the lock off the door let some fresh air in and get some throw pillows but don’t move out lol
Yep, it does kind of resolve into that doesn’t it.
So what happens when I'm gay in the most literal sense of being exclusively attracted to other men, but I can't vibe with the standard-issue queer aesthetics at all? I would rather die than say "you're serving cunt PERIOD", and I might die of embarrassment if someone said that to me. I am reserved, I do not want to stand out and draw attention to myself. I wear Orvis button-downs and dad sneakers. I don't know who boygenius is; I listen to 20-minute prog rock songs that you can't dance to. Being camp is just too much work, it sounds like a job. I've already got a job and it sucks.
By refusing to fit in with the group that is specifically trying to "fit out", you are no longer gay in the eyes of the X overlords (stop calling it Twitter, that's its deadname). Luckily this affects you in literally no way at all, live your life and be happy and if you want to find a gay community of actually normal people, consider rock climbing, that's what my brother did anyway. In general real world, local communities will not have nearly as many chronically online types that expect members of every group to satisfy a checklist to qualify as a member.
i’ll stop deadnaming twitter when muskrat stops deadnaming his daughter 🩷
Call it what you want, but if you hate him as much as you say you do don't be giving him a cent of ad revenue by using that Nazi app. Too many people out here calling it Twitter as a ✨protest✨ but are too brain dead to stop using the damn thing.
Ketamusk
I will never stop calling it twitter
I wondered where you guys went. Thank you for being you.
I have no helpful advice, but your vibe seems great honestly.
I feel like no matter who you are in this society, being your most honest self is the most important thing to do. Normalize *queer in khakis*. We need all kinds in this world.
I can certainly understand how unappealing straightness might be if you're purely going off what you see on the internet, but the solution isn't to cosplay as the type of man that you think women like, it's to say "that part doesn't apply to me" and move on with your life! However I am autistic and also a woman, so maybe I'm over simplifying 😂 Also if a man isn't gentle to animals he's just a psychopath, c'mon now
Definitely says something about their need to fit in rather than fall down the model train wormhole they are destined for
Ultimately agreed with the conclusions here, the yassification of straight men is a weird cultural neurosis around a certain sort of person, usually "bi" women who have exclusively dated men but happen to watch Drag Race -- however, does the Democratic Party really "support trans rights" though? I mean, they seemed more content to exploit trans issues as a culture war front (while not pushing for much material change to help support trans women), and then left trans people to the wolves in a blink. When Kamala was AG for California she fought against gender reaffirming care for trans inmates, should we have expected better from her as President?
“i kinda agree bestie we need to radically delimit and police how gender and sexuality are presented this is what i fought for as a queer leftist”
Nobody here is implementing social policy to "delimit" and "police" how gender and sexuality are presented. But performative bisexuals and yassified straight men are fucking annoying. Why "police" our freedom to talk about how fucking annoying they are?
Girl you ate that annoying ass bitch up. THANK U.
United Front Against Annoying People
this is all synonymous with DL culture, is anybody still doing that?? these “bi” women think they’re experts on male sexuality but a real expert would know what questions to ask
They observed the cultures contempt for masculinity, and tried to react by being feminine.
But there are no good men to the new culture: you can’t win approval from women or gays just by acting like them
the “I’m attracted to like four men” thing is so cringe because women who say that are ALWAYS dating men. speaking as a straight bisexual representative we need to stop this faux lesbian shit. date men or don’t date men but don’t date men and be like teehee im so embarrassed!!
I totally get where you are coming from with this, and sometimes the straggots seem to have a weird homophobia they feel like they need to perform to justify themselves sometimes, but I do think there are some of them for whom it is genuine, I’ve met some who are like that and non-toxic, they’re just effeminate but are men attracted to women. They’re still straight guys but I think they can sometimes still experience a certain kind of victimization by other straight men for the way they are that is not so so disimilar from the way gay people or trans people are treated - it isn’t the same, but I think those people don’t necessarily need to like man up or achieve a particular standard of masculinity? Us existing and being ourselves maybe opens some room up for them to be themselves too and maybe loosens some of the rigid boundaries on this stuff that I think is good for everyone
Loved this thank you for being a bitch on this app
i’m a male i’m a man i’m a he i don’t get into that… smolbeansoftboi stuff
how can i get a job in one of those shipping containers
Trump is a sissy queen boots 😹😹😹
Wait I can't read books without being performative now wtf
What the hell did I just read?
String them up and let them swing. Hate these assholes. Also, this is a white cis-presenting het couple thing, which i think is the root of their need to be unique or subversive, because they're anything but and can't deal with their identities being blase. they need to be part of the cool crowd and the out-group despite being born, and bred, and still living in the in-group. Boring, privileged people (especially those with nothing going on) need to tie themselves to an identity that isn't as run-of-the-mill and safe as their own bc otherwise they'd have to live with the fact that they have every opportunity to do something interesting with their privilege but haven't and have no plans to. They can't stand the reality that their like sooooo many other people. They're the tweet that's like "white people find out they're ugly and now all of sudden they're non-binary and autistic," except she's found out the dolls don't like her and all of a sudden he's gay. LOVED THIS.
It’s ironic to talk about being performative with your gayness then immediately jump to being performative with your gayness. I imagine if you spoke like this in my city, the gays here would blank stare at you just like your straight man did. Here I’d say you’re more encouraged to speak like a normal human being and less like a “Best of Gay TikTok compilation.” Gay culture can vary a lot and not everyone within the LGBT community will keep up with your niche references and some straight people will. When you’re replacing the definition of culture with Rupaul and online meme references, it’s a very easy thing for trendy straight people to adopt. If it bothers you so much, go interact more with your local communities and find new culture there.
the difference is i’m not performing love. it’s fine to not be down with internet lingo as long as that’s ur truth 💖 but my truth is flamboyant faggotry realness